May 2020: Resilience and Adaptability

The best medicine…. Resilience and Adaptability 

Ihad a whole blog and a content plan ready for the month of May. This is the time when I like to deal with the topics of generational wealth and the money lessons that mothers often times teach their children. Yet, this month, that feels completely out of place. I decided to share the two greatest things I was taught by my mother. I have fought very hard to instill both of these things in my girls. These qualities have gotten so many of us through these trying 8 weeks of quarantine and will get us through the uncertain days to come. They are Adaptability and Resilience.

Adaptability …… 

Stephen Hawking once said that, “Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change”. Well, everyone, in that last weeks we have all proven that we are incredibly intelligent. I remember when I was a young mother, very early on, I decided that I wanted my daughters to be able to change their schedules when needed. Yes, they had a bedtime and feeding schedule, but I would change things up at times so they would learn to adapt. They learned things like taking a nap in the car to eating something quick on the go. Even the best of schedules can sometimes be sidetracked by the smallest of things. I wanted them to know that the way they responded to those shifts was what determines your success in the end. We have now had to learn to work from home, do common core math and even cook. These last few weeks have taught us a lot about ourselves and how we choose to deal (or not deal) with things can make a huge difference in our outlook to a crappy situation.

Resilience…   

I am not sure if I have ever shared this, but I am a huge Rocky fan. In fact, as my family will tell you, I even quote the moves at times. My favorite quote is all about Resilience, “It’s not about how hard we hit, its about how hard we can get hit and keep moving forward”. I believe in those words whole heartedly. I have had more moments in my life than I care to count where the easy thing would have been to take the hit and stay down, but I didn’t. I remember a lesson my mother would repeat to me many times. She would tell me that bad things would inevitably happen. That was life. It was ok to stop and take it in. I then had to remember that I had breath in my lungs, blood pumping through my veins and laying down was just not an option. That is what it means to be alive and resilient.

Many of us have had incredibly trying times that have affected our finances, business, mental health and more. There are others for whom Covid-19 was more than just the reason they were staying at home; it was the illness they had to overcome. It was the virus that took their loved one. We don’t know what the future holds. We are just starting to come out of the dark and see what this new world will look like. I think of all the incredible women I have had the honor to work with over the years. Women who came to me in some of the worse moments of their lives when many contemplated not getting off the floor, but they did. They reached out and found a way to keep moving forward and create their new normal. I can tell all of you that just like they did, you will move forward into the new world stronger than ever. Remember to be kind to one another and to yourselves, as I always tell you, YOU ARE WORTHY!!!